So you’re trying to build new health habits. Maybe you have had the same New Year's resolution for the last 5 years and every year, you just know it, THIS IS GOING TO BE MY YEAR! Unfortunately, it goes as it usually does and you do really great for 2 weeks, maybe a month if you’re lucky. Then life gets in the way, you lose motivation and it’s the same old story, “I just don’t know how to have enough willpower to stick to it long term”. Well buckle in, I'm about to teach you 5 reasons why this keeps happening and what you can do to change that and actually kill it at your goals.
Mistake #1 – Not finding your why
To be truly motivated you need to know why you are doing something. You need to know why is it deeply important to you. Attach that goal to as many important values in your life as you can.
Mistake #2 – Setting extrinsic goals
Making your goals way too outside of yourself. Basing your motivation on things really outside of your control. Unless your goals are hitting you internally and making an internal difference for you. Your motivation is not going to keep up with you.
Mistake #3 – Changing too much at once
It is now new year, I have already heard the phase “new year, new me” a number of times. We can easily get caught up in the idea that unless we are changing everything and doing it all we are doing it completely wrong. Changing it all at once is going to rely heavily on your energy and your willpower and it doesn’t often end is great things. Change gradually. Just because you are going slow does not mean you are not making great changes in your life.
Mistake #4 – goals not specific enough
Know what you want, be certain in what you want. Have something specific you are working towards. Saying, my goal is to feel healthier, is not specific enough. What does healthy look like to you? How will you know when you get there? What are the details?
Mistake #5 – choosing the wrong crowd
Show me the 5 people you spend the most time with I will show you how far you will progress with your goals. We are a herd, we love to be a part of a community. If our herd is not working towards the same thing we are, we will fall back into line if we cannot find people to work alongside us. Choose your crowd wisely and find people moving towards similar goals as you are so you can support each other through the progress.
These are all very common mistakes. Check in to see where your goals setting may have been falling short and try a new approach. It is never too late to make a change and nothing is ever impossible. If you have the will then you will find the way.