We get to choose who we are. If you are repeatedly saying I am who I am because of my upbringing, I am who I am because of my mum, because of my dad, because of my friends. We all have flaws, we cannot be perfect, however, you do get to choose who you are and how you show up in your life. If there are things you do not like about how you conduct yourself. You are not a tree, you are not stuck, you can move, grow and change. You are not a victim to your surroundings, to who you become, to who you are on this day.
It starts with your stories. It starts with changing what you constantly repeat to yourself. It starts with changing how you view things. You always have the power to shift your perspective, you always have the power to shift your psychology. It is about how you talk to yourself, the things you say. What are you telling yourself on a daily basis? What are you telling yourself about your surroundings? Are you surrounding yourself with people that are feeding the things that are leading you to become the person you do not want to be? Or are they feeding the things that will support you to become the best version of yourself?
What are you doing to help yourself? While our surroundings can have an impact on who we are and how we show up. Your life is always 100% your responsibility and what goes on in your reality is 100% your responsibility of how you respond to it and how you perceive it. It will always be 100% your responsibility.
If you have trouble with your health, you cannot always control the cards you are given however, you can learn to control your perception on the situation. And you can control as to whether you choose to see this as a lesson on how you can grow and learn as a person. Or you can choose to see it as a poor me, my life is terrible, everything is terrible, and life cannot get better because I cannot be healthy. I speak so strongly on the things because these are the things, I had to learn the most.
Naturally, I very easily go into the victim mentality, thinking that the world hates me, and nothing works out. I have found myself a lot there in the past and even recently. What makes the difference is that if you find yourself there, what are you doing to get yourself out? Find yourself a routine that will pull you out of it. Maybe you need to stay there for a few days and be upset, go right ahead, feel what you need to. However, staying there will not serve you in the long term and will not help you find solutions. It will always weigh very heavily on your shoulders.
I don’t see the reason for pulling yourself out of these moments about denying what is in your reality. I see them as important because when you spend a lot of your time hating how your life looks, you make yourself miserable. Learning to shift your perspective to be more positive, for me. Is there because it helps your mental health, it helps you feel lighter, it helps you be okay with your life. It lifts you out of the holes you dig yourself into. I see them as important because it helps you find peace within your current circumstances and you stop the internal battle against where you are right now.
When you find yourself in a tough situation, it is rarely easy. But what makes it more difficult is thoughts you play over and over in your mind. The stories you tell yourself of how terrible the situation is. I can assure you, no pain is unique, anything you go through and feel, someone else has been through before and someone else has overcome. You do not have to shift into a positive mindset. But ask yourself, by trying to do so, what do you have to lose? If you do not like it, you can go back to thinking about those heavy thoughts. But in the meantime, perhaps you may have found yourself seeing things brighter than you have in the past. What mindset shifts are you going to make this week that will help you find more peace around what happens for you daily. More peace around something that you found has not been working out for you and weighing you down. What can you do this week to help yourself move into a lighter set of thoughts?